What IS this??

[TwiSt]

I have this Best Friend, right across the street. She was sick, so she wasnt in school... and today, which is the day after that, she appears to be at her other "friends" house. I asked her is she felt ok today, she said no, but she was over at the other girls house. She made a promise to not go over there, because even that girl annoyed her. And yet, what did she do? She keeps going over there!! ah.. she even told me she wasnt having too much of a good time there, but I didnt respond to that.

We have been friends for 9 years... Ive come to her house so many times, but she doesnt even want to step into mine. This best friend thing doesnt seem like best friends. We bearly speak to eachother, kuz most of the time she is over at her other "friend'S" house, and bearly comes to school.

And.. I keep asking her...why would she want to be friends with a girl who got her into deep shit for the past few years. She has gotten her in so much trouble.. and now.. all of a sudden, they are inseperable.... wtf is with that.

Im doubting this "best" friends thing. I just dont know anymore... and come to think about it, we dont have that much incommon. I hear these other girls from my tennis team descirbe their best friend relationship. Their friends call them, everyday, talk everyday, and act more like sisters. Then I look at what my best friend and I do, its nothing... I cant even really have a good cnversation with her about the things I like, becasue she wouldnt understand what Im talking about, since she doesnt like MOST of my favorite things. And when they say friends cry over other friend's shoulders... I cant do that. I cant open my self up to my own best friend that I have known for 9 years.

Ah, I just dont know if its a waste or whatever it is..

Im done.

[chibi]

It's hard for some people to open up to others. I've had lots of trouble with that. You and your friend have probably grown apart. I've never had a friend that long, never been around long enough, but I do know people change along with their friends. But I bet those nine years weren't a waste of time, you probably learned a lot from her even if you don't realize it. Let your friend go, you'll find plenty of people with similar interests probably. You may have problems letting go, I had a friend that had a problem like that with a girl and I couldn't understand that at all because of how I am, but it'll probably be for the best of both of you. Get over her and find someone that you can depend on, someone who makes you feel good, someone who you can trust. I think you'll like it better that way. ^.^

edit: just made it sound... happier....

[TwiSt]

mm ... easier to say then to do. I dont think I have a friend thats close like that... or I cant find one.. en

I gave up some time ago..

[chibi]

I know it's easier to say than to do, I've really gotten used to letting go in a way, especially with relationships like you described. Don't give up ,though, you'll run into somebody eventually. If you asked me three years ago if I thought I would even be friends with my best friend now, I probably would have told you no way. Start talking to people and see what happens.


What is funny, though, is that I wouldn't follow most of the advice in this post because of the way I'm very introverted, but I give it anyway.

[seigfox]

It's always easier to give advice, but true strenth is shown when one has to act on one's own values, and do what is right, even though it may be hard or painful.

I saw that in a movie once. Even hollywood can be right every once in awhile. In the end you have to think of what is right for you, If your friend is just going to abandon you, maybe its time to find better friends, people who will respect you and not run off and make excuses.

[Fox]

I consider my best friend as more of a brother. When we lived near other he actually lived at my house more than his. Heck, when I moved back to Florida, he moved with me lol. However, he left, and lives back in Pennsylvania now where we used to live. I barely ever talk to him anymore because of the long distance and our busy schedules, but I still consider him a brother. So really if there ever was a bond of any sort, you don't need to be "next door" to them per say. That'd last around the world if you needed it to.

[Raven]

I think you just grew apart, don't give op finding new friends there is some one out there forevry one. You can't waite for happynes to come to you, you have to look fore it, I know it's easyer said then done but you have to keap looking.

[TwiSt]

ah thanks for ALL of that. I dunno, but ima try. Maybe it is time. Im not that chatty though.. eh, lol.. ill try ;D

[Fox]

BE CHATTY. Well...not too chatty, that can get annoying. Just express yourself. Best thing to do. If someone doesn't like the truth...well tough cookies...or something.

[Isocryd]

When I was 12, I met this guy in school... he was arrogant as they come, always surrounded by his friends and, on top of it all, we liked the same girl.

After a few years, we sorted our differences and became friends. However, another guy joined the "gang". My friend seemed hypnotized by him... Heck, he even stole from me for that guy.

Long story short, this guy screwed up here and there and my friend returned to "normal"

Okay, I'm guessing that what you need to hear is this:

It's up to you to decide if it is worth it... what you need is to put the pieces together and decide what to do.

If she doesn't want to talk with you, "put your foot down" and tell her straight what you feel... It may burden you, but if she cares even a little, it's gonna burden her more... lots more. (If you use this, pay attention to her when she is not with you... does she smile? and HOW does she smile.

Be observant and critic.

And for Tchernobog's sake, think before you try anything... there is no better way to ensure failure than to rush things.

[TwiSt]

ah thats a lot to think about.. I haven't thought about any of that.. except the confronting.. but yea.. thanks.

Ill try that.. and get on with whatever I need to. I don't want it to be my burdon. ANd plus, for the past 4 or something days she was/is sick, so thats little contact, and nothing bad happened, no drama, blah blah... I can live. Just seems that time goes by so fast. Years turn into second... I can't really see all these things move on so fast. Its really hard to take control of anything if the grasp is weak.

Heh, and who's Tchernobog?